All of us enjoy a challenge, good or bad.  We give it our all and do whatever possible to overcome it.  We face them daily.  It can be at work, with friends, family and relationships.

Of course, we know that the most difficult challenges seem to take forever to resolve, in some cases they never do.

So, when do you know it’s time to give up?  How do we walk away and can we? We are creatures of habit and find it truly difficult to let go of anything.

The idea of having to start all over again is horrible.  This is the reason why we put so much effort in getting through the challenges that come across daily.  The older we get, the harder it is to let go.  We refuse to face the facts and when this happens, we avoid the one question that can answer all.  Is it all worth?

Is it worth it to waste precious time on things that we know will never change?  Well, it’s up to us to decide and we can only do this if we are honest with ourselves.  When it comes to work, we will give our all but when it’s over, we know it and move on.  When it comes to friends, we work at our relationships but again, there are those friendships that are meant for a time only.  These are friends that came into our lives, maybe helped us out and moved on.  There is nothing wrong with that.

However, our biggest challenges are those we deal with in our families or relationships.  These are not easy and even harder to walk away but at times we should.  There are couples that are married and have children but are not happy.  What they do is stay in this marriage for the sake of the children.  The challenges they face daily are not easy.  To pretend that they are in love, that they want to be together and create an image of a real loving family is neither easy nor fun.

What’s worse is that even though they hide their true feelings for each, the children know.  They become aware of it and it affects them.  It affects their behavior and the way they think of relationships as they grow older.  This is a time when we would have to take a step back and look at the big picture.  No one is happy in this situation and as hard as it may be, because there are many years involved and children, you should let it go.

Some won’t because they believe someone will say they didn’t try hard enough, didn’t care.  No, that is not the case and besides, what others think of you is not important.  No one knows the truth but those in the family.  It’s not an easy thing to do but you can face this challenge and move on.  Though at the time this decision is made, you may not believe it will get better, it does.  Not only that, you will thank yourself for it.

Ending relationships are just as bad.  We meet that special someone and fall head over heels in love with them.  There was so much passion, love, sharing and caring in the beginning.  It felt like heaven and believed it would never end.  However, we may have known it would from the very beginning.  Why?  Well, one was and is still in love, while the other never felt that way for real.  They could have stayed in the relationship due to loneliness or convenience.  When this happens, one gives way more than the other.  Also, since they know, deep inside that their partner really doesn’t love them; they will do anything to make them happy.  However, they can actually make worst by making many mistakes.  Remember, logic has not control over emotions.

When we are aware of situations or challenges such as these, we have to be realistic.  We have to look ourselves in the mirror, admit what we know, take that long deep breath and walk away.  This is the best thing we can do for ourselves.  No one wants to wake up 10, 15, 30 years later and ask themselves why they wasted so much time.  So no matter how hard it is and you know what you have to do, just breathe deeply and let it go.