Many of us have been going through some hard times lately. It could have been emotional or financial problems. In some cases, some of us have it harder than others, we have gone through both. During this time we cried, yelled, panicked, lost everything or almost everything, didn’t have a job, etc.
Our lives resembled a wild roller coaster ride and it seemed as though it would never stop. One day we would wake up happy and the next so depressed we didn’t want to get out of bed. We could be compared to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
To those around us, we seemed as though we were about to lose our minds and to be honest, many of us will admit that it did almost happen. Of course, with all we were going through, who could blame us? We got advice from our loved ones, close friends and even therapists or support groups. They would tell us things would get better and that at the end of the tunnel there was a light. Granted many of us believed it was a train and it was headed straight towards us.
Then one day we woke up and felt fine. It’s not that everything was solved. We might still be unemployed, our relationship never recovered and our love one will never come back. The house has been taken away and the money is gone forever. Yet, we are okay with this. Why? Because we are tired of crying, yelling, and fighting for something we know we will never get back, we are truly exhausted. We have reached that point where we realized there isn’t much we can do about what was lost, all we can do is pick ourselves up again and move on.
So, how do we do this again? Easy, we take it one day at a time. First we need to fix ourselves up again. See, during this time, we either ate so much we gained more weight we don’t fit through the front door or lost so much weight that if a strong gust of wind comes by, it will take us away. We might look frazzled as though we stuck our finger in an electrical outlet. This could be the reason why some people ran from us and believed we had escaped from an asylum. This happens because the first thing we all do is let ourselves go and quickly.
It’s time to take control of our lives again and starting a new life should get us motivated. We can get back into shape, fix ourselves up, dress up again, and spruce up our wardrobe. To do this we don’t have to spend tons of money we don’t have, we can do this on a budget. When our friends, family and co-workers see us walk through that door looking like a million bucks, they will be shocked and happy. This means we are back, we are ourselves again. If we are getting over a break-up we will start to attract the opposite sex, instead of scaring the hell out of them.
If we think about a few past dates or encounters during our dark days when they met us they were scared. Their face showed pure shock and fear as they looked at us. Of course, it may not have been due completely to the way we looked; maybe it was due to some of the things we said. In dark days, we can’t help it; we are negative, depressing, and pessimistic. It so bad we could make an insect leap to their death. Our negative outlook and voice could make the flowers wilt and die, even a cactus. Not anymore, we are back and our outlook is a positive one now.
As for our finances, we can fix it little by little. We have to analyze our situation and find the best path for us to take. For some of us, it can be repaired slowly by paying off our debts, building our credit up again. For others, we may have to file bankruptcy and take the hit for a while. Does this mean that you are taking the easy way out? No, it’s not an easy out, it’s the only out and no one should feel ashamed that they had to do this. There are many that have had no choice but to file bankruptcy and in a year or so, they are slowly but surely getting back on their feet.
No matter what the problem was, now that we feel like ourselves again and have an optimistic outlook on life, we will be able to handle them better. We have learned from our mistakes, seen the good things that came out of our past relationships and remember the lessons taught to us by the love one that have passed on. The situations that we go through in our lives, good and bad, don’t’ occur to punish us. These are important events in our lives. This is where we become stronger, get to know ourselves better, see our mistakes and fix them.
Sure, to many it looked as though we gave up completely but that was not the case. Many of us needed to go through this, how else we would know that things weren’t right in our lives and we needed to fix them? There are those that are smart, they listen and act on the advice they receive. Some of us don’t, we have to hit rock bottom before we decide to get our lives in order.
Even though at the time we were suffering we didn’t want to hear this, everything does happen for a reason. For instance, our relationship may have ended because another door was about to open. Mr. or Ms. Right was on their way to us. We lost our job but now we have an even better one. We could be earning more money, better benefits and have the position we truly deserve. As difficult as this may be to believe, the loss of our valuables or money was a way for us to realize that we need to learn to live within our means. We need to learn to save more, be more cautious and conscious of our spending habits.
Besides all this stays in the past, we now have the opportunity to live a new and better life. When we look in the mirror we look like a normal, healthy and smart person. We no longer see that dark, sickly and scary person we were during the dark times in our lives. Now people walk toward us and say hello instead of scream and run the opposite way. Life is good again, we have our second chance.
Think of this, we always say how we wish we could go back in time and change certain events in our lives. This way, today we would have everything we want, avoid the mistakes we have made, prevented hardships, etc. But think about it, would that truly be a good idea? If we could do that we would lose so much. We might not have the children we have today, lost the opportunity of having those close friends, missed out on some special relationships we had, etc.
Instead, we get that second chance to make good in our lives. We get to keep our good friends, children, loved ones and memories but with the ability of making sure we don’t make the same mistakes with the knowledge we have now. All we have to do now is look forward, enjoy life, make the best of it and leave the past behind. It’s time to put that second chance to good use and build a better life for ourselves. We can do this without any problems. Our thoughts are in order and our hearts are mended. It’s time to live in the present and look forward to the future.