It’s a given that couples are in the mood almost all the time when they first get together. There is no need for words, eye contact, nothing; just a simple nod and they’re on their way. However, later on in the relationship, everything changes.
Now the couple has to learn how to read each other, figure out if tonight is the night.
So what do you do? Do you take the risk and assume the wink means let’s get it on or is it that they have something in their eye?
It’s important to be sure because if they are not in the mood and you are, it will end badly. This does sound kind of silly but it’s true. The couple forgets to communicate or in some cases they are scared to ask. They begin to have flashbacks of previous nights where they tried to get cozy and instead were welcomed with a smack on the hand, a quick insult in a loud tone and kicked out of the bed. Whether we want to admit it or not, mostly women do this, it can be hellish for a man. Imagine he’s in fear of his life if he asks her for a little nookie.
Now we believe men are always ready to go, all you have to say is come here and they come running. Well ladies that is not the case. There are stories that woman have walked around in front of them naked or in hot lingerie and nothing. They seem to get more excited watching the 11 o’clock news that watching you traipse around with nothing on. Just in case you didn’t know this, they will make believe they are sleeping so that you will leave them alone. See, women are not the only ones that avoid contact.
So how do you figure out if they’re in the mood if you are too scared to ask them? No, you don’t have to go to school and learn a new language. Instructions do not come with your partner and you definitely don’t want them to write up a guideline for you. They might just hit you with it. What you need to do is pay attention. Here are a few hints:
- If your partner starts to rub you gently, squeeze you softly and looks at you with googly eyes that means they are in the mood.
- They take your hand and say let’s go to the room, let’s watch television. However, they are giving you a smile the whole way there; they are actually looking for quality time with you. Please don’t turn on the television that was never their true intention. If you turn on the television, you might just wear it as a nice hat.
- When they seem very loving, touching you constantly, hugging you, leaning on you, nibbling your ears, this is a sign they are in the mood.
Now, there are other signs that are blunt and to the point. They walk naked around the house, kiss you passionately, touch you intimately or best of all, waiting for you naked in bed. These are the most obvious and though many of you won’t believe this, some partners will just keep walking. Now, we have talked about how to know they are in the mood but we haven’t mentioned what happens when you ignore their signs. The war begins.
When a person in the mood is ignored and without good reason they become a little scary. Alright, they become evil ogres. They will fight, scream, argue, throw things, rant, rave and make a promise to get even with their partner. It’s as though you are watching some crazed ape go wild in their cage. We have to understand, they were ready to go. All those feelings, passion and desire running through them and you shut them down. How else would we expect them to behave?
So when you go to sleep, sleep with one eye open, at least for that night. Okay maybe two or three but next time you notice they're in the mood, give in, be smart and be alert.