We spend our time looking for the perfect person to share our lives with. We go through many relationships looking for someone better and along the way miss many opportunities to be happy.
Why do we do this? Well, in women, it is said it dates back to our childhood.
They grew up listing to stories how a sweet, innocent and frail princess was rescued from her miserable life by a strong, handsome Prince Charming. For men, it comes from what they were taught.
Always look for the perfect woman, one that that will be a good homemaker, good cook, loving, obedient and most of all, perfect body. Our relationships start out great. We go on a date and we feel a click with that person. We like them and are attracted to them but as time goes by we begin to nitpick. We no longer find their smile attractive; they need to fix their teeth. They hairstyle is old fashion and makes them look ugly. Their clothes bother you, their voice, their closeness; it gets so bad that you just break it off. Now that wouldn’t be so bad if we just said we didn’t feel the relationship was going well. Instead we end the relationship badly. We belittle them because they don’t meet up to our standards.
We call them fat, old, crazy, clingers, moody, ugly, short, weird, freak, etc. They just can’t please us at all but have we taken the time to look in a mirror. Of course not, we feel we are perfect and they are beneath us. Now if we just took one step back and took a good look at ourselves, many times we will notice that we ask for just too much. For instance, have you ever gone out with a group and just listened to what they say? They will see a person who they consider is ugly and make all types of jokes about them. However, not once noticing that if the lights were turned on, they might scare a few people on their own. How can we ask that person to be perfect if we aren’t?
Obviously we are doing something wrong. First of all, looks aren’t everything. There is more to a person than their looks. Next time you go to a mall, club, park, etc look around. You will see the oddest couples ever. They are so different that it boggles the mind. For instance, you will see this man that, to many of us, is scary and wouldn’t want to spend one second with them in a closed, dark room. Yet, when you look at his partner you are shocked. It’s a beautiful woman, the type that could probably pass for a model. Same thing for women who are not very attractive but their partner is a man women would fight each other for.
Why is that? Well, first of all, let’s get this straight. They are neither bewitched nor threatened into this relationship. Their family is not being held hostage, they are with them because they love them. Maybe they aren’t good looking (to us), sexy, thin, strong, tall, and young but to their partner they are perfect. Just in case, they are not rich either. It’s their personality, the attention they give their partner, the love, the chemistry. Also, they may be more like Cyrano de Bergerac. They have the ability to swoon the person with their words. They are romantic and gentle plus full of passion.
These people we consider ugly could become our prince or princess. Remember, the princess kissed the frog and it turned into a prince. What does this mean? No, it doesn’t mean go outside, pick up a frog and kiss it, unless that is a hobby of yours. It means give a person a chance. Learn to see past their flaws, you might find that they have lots to offer you. If they keep trying to win you over, obviously they got over your flaws. Let the idea that there is a perfect partner out there for you that has no flaws whatsoever. The perfect partner is someone who loves you, cares, helps, shares, understands and supports you. This is what makes the person perfect.
So next time you run into someone you might not usually consider as a possible partner, give them a chance. Who knows, this may be the frog you kiss and turn into a prince or princess.