Marriage is truly a partnership; it involves such things as love, understanding, sharing and companionship. That is just the tip of the iceberg but marriage does not mean you live in a rose colored world. There are ups and downs to all relationships and it’s to be expected.
There is no such thing as true perfection that is only for the couple to decide if their relationship is perfect. In that case it’s perfect for them. When you decide to get married you are given a list of rules. Everyone has a rule as to what will make your marriage a happy one and last forever.
For instance, always do everything together, make up before you go to bed, never argue, always give in, etc. There is nothing wrong with listening to them but in all honesty, each couple is different. Your marriage should be based on your needs. Remember these are two individuals that have different personalities who are brought about by attraction and love. They will need their space from time to time and it’s acceptable. A marriage is a work in progress and only that couple can make it work.
Sharing interests
Many believe that your true love should have the exact same interests as them. It might be nice at first but in the end it will be boring. It’s great that a couple find activities to do together but they should also have separate interests. It’s needed in the relationship, allowing them to feel free and not trapped in a marriage. Feeling trapped and bored can end any relationship.
Arguing
Never argue with your partner that only leads to divorce. That is not true, if something is bothering you, you need to let the other person know. Don’t hold back, say what you feel, minus the insults and name calling. This is healthy (as long as it’s not every day of the week), it allows you to understand each other and compromise.
Be Honest
Honesty is good in any relationship as long as it doesn’t hurt someone or make them feel uncomfortable. For instance, never talk about past relationships or compare them to past partners. Even if your spouse doesn’t say anything out loud, they will feel inadequate and it could end the relationship quickly.
Children First
As soon as there are children the picture, the relationship is put on hold. This is not a good thing at all. Always make time for each other; a date night would be great. If possible try to see if the kids can do a sleep over with friends or family once in a while. This gives you the chance to share time with each other and rekindle the passion in your romance.
Make up before Bed
It’s a nice idea but it’s not happening. If you are angry with each other, it will not be solved in 15 minutes before you go to bed. On the contrary, you’ll get angrier because you are tired. Instead, just go to bed, sometimes if you sleep on it, in the morning it won’t seem to bad. Plus you are more relaxed and will be able to talk about the issue without getting to angry.