It seems at times easier to make friends then it is to get into a relationship.  Throughout life we meet new people all the time.  Some of these people become lifetime friends.

Some we met during our childhood, others in high school and those in college.  We have a special circle of friends we rely on.

Every time we have news to share, whether good or bad we run to them.  Basically friends are there to support each other.

Of course, during these times, we become involved in relationships.  It’s sad to say but the relationships come and go but our friends are still there.  So what happens when we truly find that special someone and we seem to dedicate all our time to them?  What happens to our friends?  As many of us know, we do tend to neglect our friends but it’s understandable, up to a point.  We are trying to work on our relationship, which we hope will last forever.  But sometimes, we seem to overdo it.

When you think of it, it doesn’t seem so bad but it is.  Take a step back and think of your own friends.  How did it feel when a great friend of yours sort of left you behind, didn’t bother to call, never had time to chat or didn’t want to go out, not even for a lunch date?  You probably felt pretty bad but when the relationship was over, here came the friend.  No matter, even if we mend our relationships with our friends, we do hold some resentment towards them.

Why does this happen?  When we fall head over heels in love we can’t think of nothing more than that person.  We want to spend all our time with them.  We start neglecting everything except that special person.  This is being done to make sure the relationship last and doesn’t disappear too quickly.  Basically we put all our eggs in one basket.

In doing this, our friends become resentful and without even meeting Mr. / Ms Right, they hate them.  They already despise them and will be ready to put them down as quickly as possible.  Of course, sometimes they are right but still it shouldn’t happen.  To avoid all this, the best thing to do is to have a get together, time to meet the friends.  Go out as a group; have them over for dinner, movie night, etc.
Now, we can’t please everyone.  It may be that our friends will never like him/her.  They can however, get used to them and at least bond in some way, at least for you.  This way you won’t lose your friends, they will always be there.  This also helps him/her know that there is another part of your life, friends, and that they are important to you.

Now as a friend, if you find yourself in this situation, remember, most likely you did this too.  It is up to us to at least try to understand and give them some breathing time.  If you don’t like him/her, try to be gentle with your words.  For instance, this person may not seem attractive to you but they are to your friend.  Be supportive, no one has the same taste.  If so, it would most likely cause problems.

A relationship always has its ups and downs.  There are times that the relationship will end many times.  Why mention this, well as soon as our friends leave that person we start to say negative things, maybe insult them.  It’s not a good idea to this, be careful.  Many times the breakup turns to be temporary and they get back together again. Then you will feel very uncomfortable.  Whatever comments were made, they should never be shared with him/her.  There is no need for friction between them.

In life, nothing is easy; we all have to work hard at keeping our relationships and our friends.  Most of the time, we’ll be lucky and everyone will get along.  There will be a few times that no matter what we do someone will not be happy.   But remember, whether you’re the friend or you’re the one in the relationship, take everyone into consideration.   You can have both; it’s a matter of sharing and talking.  If it’s a true love or true friendship, it will last forever.