Our health is very important to us. We constantly hear how we must avoid fatty foods, drinking too much and smoking.
It is recommended that we exercise, eat right, take a daily vitamin, sleep right and always get a yearly physical.
There are countless of diet books out there. Articles that advise us that too much caffeine is not good for us and that we must eat three meals a day. It’s so much to take in that we kind of lose control but we still do it.
However, is our poor health only due to what we eat, drink, or lack of exercise? There are other factors that we don’t take into consideration. See, we could do everything they tell us to do and still be ill. One reason is due to our genes. It may just be that no matter what you do, you still become ill. But even these can be caught in time if treated properly. So what then? What else can make us ill that even the doctors are baffled and believe we are psychosomatic?
It’s stress. This is truly a silent killer. Of course when we think of stress, we think of work and our daily home lives. Maybe at work it’s been too busy or maybe your schedule at home with the family is too hectic. It gets so bad that we begin to look for ways to escape. Maybe take a day off from work while the spouse is at work and the kids are at school. Go out and drive around, get some fresh air and enjoy the peace and quiet. But still this is not the only type of stress.
Some people are so stressed and you would not know it. See their life seems perfect. They are good workers, sociable, always smiling and making jokes. They seem to be the life of the party and they look so happy. Yet, what we don’t realize is that this person is falling apart. They are in a lot of pain but hide it very well. But would have caused this stress? Why is this person hurting so much? It is due to a personal issue, most likely a break up.
That’s right, as hard as it is to believe it, a break up can cause a person great stress. They must learn again to be alone. But before getting to that step, there are others before it. The stress begins the minute the break up occurs. All sorts of thoughts run through their minds as to what will they do, how will they cope, where do they go now, etc. The stress can be great for this person. Picking up the pieces is hard. First, the social part of it, it’s not just breaking up, it’s telling the world what has happened.
Then there comes the part when they begin to think of why? What happened? As the days go by, the pain doesn’t really go away, it actually gets worst. Why? You begin to remember so many things and you can’t stop. You begin to remember all you did, all you gave up, all you swallowed in the name of love and it makes you angry. Angry that the person never once appreciated anything you did for them or sacrificed for them. You begin to feel and realize that they took advantage of you.
Since you feel abandoned, you begin to wonder what else will fall apart. Will you lose your job, home, friends or family? Will you be able to trust anyone again or love them? This builds up more and more each day if you can’t seem to find relief. This stress begins to take a toll in your body. You begin to have more frequent headaches, chest pains, back pain, fatigue, distress, anxiety attacks. You are so stressed that it actually affects your body in a way you never thought it would.
You begin to visit the doctor and they can’t seem to find anything. You take all sorts of medication that really don’t work. One thing stress does is causes you to suffer more often from colds and allergies. Usually this happens due to lack of sleep. Of course there are times that the person sleeps even more than normal and falls into a great depression.
Just recently they did a study regarding pain due to break ups. They found that people who said their heart hurt due to a break up was really true. The test showed that the heart was affected. So what does this mean? It means that broken hearts truly exist, not only emotionally but physically. Stress can cause us serious illnesses such as heart attacks, strokes, high blood pressure, etc.
How do we get rid of stress? Well when it’s regarding our jobs, we either speak up or look for work elsewhere. We will also try to cope with it and find better ways of dealing with that stress. If it’s our home life, we sit down with the family and have a talk. Maybe reschedule some appointments, share more in the responsibilities, etc. But what about when it has to do with a break up and it’s so bad we can’t seem to get over that hump?
Well, we can see a therapist and talk until we run out of things to say. We can start going out with our friends at least to distract ourselves. One good thing to do is get rid of everything you can find that reminds you of them if the pain is too much. Another way out is to remember all the fights you had and all the tears you shed. If not that, then remember the good times. See this as a learning experience, this could help you in your next relationship and help you move on.
See, no one deserves all those tears you shed, the physical pain you feel, the stress, the depression, etc. If the relationship is over and you know you did your best then just walk away.One thing is for sure, when you feel this way the last thing you want to hear is that it was for the best. Your friends do try to cheer you up but most of the time they just make you angrier. But just remember they are only trying to help you. So, if there is a saying that may make you feel better, this might be it. One day they will wake up and say “I didn’t know what I had until I lost it”. By that time, hopefully you will be doing much better and moved on.
Your number one priority should be your health. You have a long life to live and other people to meet. Don’t allow the stress of the break up destroy you. You may not think of it now but afterwards you will realize that you did more harm to yourself then the one that left you.