Today, over 40 million Americans are looking for love in cyberspace. We all know at least of one couple that met online and has a great relationship. Long gone are the days when we would hide the true beginnings of our relationship.
We would never say we met them online, instead we would tell everyone we were set up. Dating isn’t easy at all but cyberspace makes it a little bit more pleasant and easier to schedule. Plus you have the advantage of meeting different people and screening those that you don’t feel comfortable with.
However, what many don’t realize is that one third of those online looking for love are already attached. They are looking for that little extra something on the side and truly don’t have any intentions of a serious relationship. Because of this, you have to make sure to protect yourself from e-cheaters. Pay close attention to their behavior, meeting times, etc. Below are five easy alerts that you are possibly dating an e-cheater.
Date’s Home
After a couple of months or so of dating, you should have already been to their home. This is a step that all couples take, a way of sharing their home, their personal space. If you find that they are avoiding this step, ask them why. Also, many will lie and tell you they live in another state or country. Test them; tell them you want to visit them. If there are too many excuses, you need to let them go and move on.
Date’s family, co-workers and friends
Before you meet their social network, you have to get to know each other better. Of course, after a few months you would expect to meet friends, co-workers and some family members. But if months go by and you never do meet them, you should be concerned. This is a sign that they could be an e-cheater. If they aren’t, still be concerned because in a relationship, you want everyone to get to know your special someone.
Your Intuition
Nothing works better than your intuition. If you have an odd feeling that something is not right, go with that feeling. When the relationship is right, you don’t feel any reason to worry or feel they are being unfaithful. However, when there are a lot of inconsistency, excuses, odd stories, you need you check into them.
Only emails and texts
There are some of us that can’t stand the phone but when you are dating someone, you do expect to speak to them on the phone and of course in person. If a month or more has gone by and still no actual communication besides emails and texts, be worried, it could be an e-cheater. This is even worst if you have enjoyed intimate online chats. Best thing to do is avoid those types of chats completely and if they won’t speak to you offline, move on. Only heartbreak is waiting for you.
Time of Communication
We all have odd hours of communicating due to our schedules but there are times that it is just truly odd and suspicious. If you feel something is wrong, keep track of your date’s schedule. E-cheaters will call very early in the morning or very late at night and they whisper. You are lucky if you see them or hear from them on the weekends. They rarely or never call during peak hours.