Some men do try to figure out what women want in a relationship. Unfortunately is not that easy.
Many men feel they could probably build a car, a home, etc without a manual but a woman; they need step by step instructions in order to understand.
Now, no one should be offended it is true. I know women that have asked themselves, what the heck do I really want? Now men, if you are smart, when you are in a relationship and trying to understand your partner, please don’t ask her if it’s that time of the month.
If you do this, you have entered into the lion’s den and they are ready to kill. Don’t say it’s her hormones or that she’s complicated and much less that she’s crazy. You are better off cussing her out than using these terms. Men have to understand, when they are growing up, they are told you are there to provide for your family, you’re the man of the house, now go find yourself a suitable partner. A woman is brought up differently. They get two versions of what they should be as they grow up.
Version number one: Darling, you will meet prince charming, he will be perfect, he will give you a good home, good provider, you will bear children with him, he pays for everything, should open the door for you, treat you like a queen, etc. As everyone knows, it is basically a fairytale.
Version number two: Young lady, you will grow up, go to college, get a career, find a man that is suitable for you, not just any man, don’t have children until later on in life, don’t let any man dictate your life, stand up for yourself, you don’t need to let him open that door for you, etc.
Basically, be in command, be assertive, you truly don’t need a man, women’s liberation. Now as the woman grows up, they have to learn to balance their life, figure out how to intertwine these two versions of what she should do when she grows up. It can be quite difficult and whether you believe it or not, depending on the man she is with, that is how she will behave.
As complicated as many truly believe woman are (and surprisingly enough woman believe the same thing too) it is actually a little simpler than you believe. There are basic needs that all women need and no, it’s not all about sex. Besides, women don’t call it sex, it is called making love because for many it’s a way to express their love.ROMANCE
Even if she is a very independent woman, she wants to be romanced. She wants to feel special; she wants to be that queen she was told to be. There are so many different ways to romance a woman. Sending her flowers to the office, it makes her all giddy because all the other women look at her with envy. Give her a nice massage, she is tired too when she comes home. Make her favorite meal or help her cook; spend that extra time with her. Draw nice hot relaxing bath for her. This is a promise to you, she will never forget this and she will tell her friends that you made her feel like a woman, loved and a queen. Do this and you will see that when you ask for something, she will do it cheerfully and with lots of love because you showed her you appreciate her in every way.
COMMUNICATION
It’s good to ask her how her day went, work or the kids but she actually would like to engage in other conversations. They want to talk about different topics, business, education, programs, etc. This stimulates her and gives her an even better connection with you. Don’t just sit there and nod your head to everything she says. They can actually tell that you aren’t truly listening and that will definitely stir up a fight. When you do this, it actually belittles her and makes her feel that whatever she is saying is not important at all.
HUMILITY/STRENGTH
A woman wants a strong man, ready to defend his family, their relationship but at the same time, someone sweet, humble and willing to compromise. Men hate it when a woman is wrong and won’t admit, same thing with women towards men. They do not get along very well with men that have a tyrannical personality, where they are right all the time, what they say is law, and only what he says must be done. This is truly a big turn off and your relationship will sink faster than the titanic. What everyone has to remember is this is a relationship not a castle and the man doesn't rule. That no longer exists or is acceptable.
RESPECT/UNDERSTAND
All women want a man that understands them. I know you may be saying, are you kidding, understand what? Well, if you have paid enough attention, you can get to know the woman you are with by just observing and listening. When she is upset, worried, frustrated or needs help in a situation, she wants you to listen. She wants you to understand why she is in that state of mind or situation. Basically she is looking for comfort. Most of all, she expects you to respect her. Her opinions, feelings, thoughts and work is just as important as yours and when you push them to the side and say it's silly, you have just shown her that you have no respect for her.
SEX
Yes, women want sex, lots of it and good. Now it doesn’t mean, go running towards her, throw her on the bed, have sex and that’s it. Nope, there is more to it. Make it playful, exciting; be willing to try new things. It’s not about do your duty and turn over to sleep. If she goes that extra mile to give you pleasure, excite you, do the same. She will be willing to try new tricks.
GIFTS
Okay, there should be at least one thing all men know that women enjoy receiving, gifts. Yes, gifts will put a smile on her face and sparkle in her eyes. An unexpected gift is always a great way to show her, honey I love you. Jewelry always work but you know what, there are other cute little things you can get them. How about sexy lingerie and a note saying, the only thing that would make this nightgown sexier is seeing you in it. How about a picture of the two of you, or your family, one that you know she really loves, placing it in a beautiful picture frame. Just remember this, a microwave, dishwasher, espresso maker or stainless steel pots are not a romantic gift. These items should be gifts for the home. A gift should be special not practical
COMPANIONSHIP/LOVE
It’s no longer about finding a man to provide a financial and stable environment. It is more of finding an equal. She now wants someone to share her ideas, grow desires, and plan for the future. It’s about sharing and loving, nothing more. She is looking for that compatible person, her equal.
LOOKS
Okay, let’s be honest, man are visual. When they see a woman walk by with a figure 36-26-36, their tongue pretty much hits the floor. What a babe is what comes out of their mouth. Well woman are different (not all of course). Woman look for qualities in a man, not looks, even though it can be a plus. See, in women’s eyes, the hotter he looks, the more stuck on himself he is. They could be wrong but not usually. When it comes to them, they do want you to find her attractive, show her you find her sexy. Never tell her she looks awful, you are better off saying, honey that dress is nice but this one makes you look hotter or try this one, it's my favorite. See, you will have avoided a fight, made her feel good without destroying her self esteem.
HAPPINESS
Most of all, they want to be happy. If they are able to get more than half the things they want in life with you, they are happy. The good outweighs any bad times, thoughts or problems. So to keep that woman do whatever you can. Just the fact that you make the effort, try hard and show her you love her, you have won her over completely. She will be happy and when she is happy, you are happy.