It can be very challenging for a man to speak to a woman he just met or likes. Of course, as soon as this part is read, we think of the nightclubs.
Not the case, we are talking about a woman he may have met at a grocery store, a book store, at a friend’s house, etc.
The biggest problem is the fear of rejection and of course, they have every right to feel this way. How many times have men walked up to a woman, simply said hello and they get the look of death?
Most likely, too many too count. They definitely don’t want to use pick up lines, it only makes it worst, so what can they do? First of all, a simple smile, with no hidden meaning will soften things for him. If she smiles back, then it means she is approachable. Walk up to her, say hello and introduce yourself. Now when you are speaking to her, don’t stutter, don’t look around, be pushy or show signs of nervousness.
Here’s one thing to remember, women like men who are confident. This is a turn on for them; it’s what attracts women to men. Start a conversation that seems interesting, for instance, if you notice she is trying on sunglasses, let her know that they look good on her if they do. If not, maybe point out another pair, you would be surprised, this doesn’t bother them. Ask her a few questions, not as though you working for the FBI and you are interrogating her.
Tell her the truth, you had never seen her before and well, you would honestly like to get to know her better. At that point ask her if she would like to join you for a cup of coffee, lunch, etc. Don’t force her into it and if she doesn’t really want to but still seems interested in you, tell her it’s okay, maybe another time. Give her your phone number and/or email address. Let her know she can call you anytime and you look forward to talking to her. This type of gesture can make her feel comfortable because you are not pushing her and she might just change her mind about that cup of coffee.
If she doesn’t change her mind, don’t worry, she will call you. Do everything you can to make an impression, they love men who have a sense of humor, taste, confidence and are gentle. Leave her with the desire to get to know you better. As you can see, it really isn’t that hard, it’s all about being smart and opportunity. Some of the reasons men have a hard time communicating with women they like is due things such as:
- Pickup lines that are sexual, dirty, lame and outdated
- Approach, if it’s aggressive or overconfident it will turn them off quickly
- Assuming that no matter what, they will want to be with him
- Clumsiness, shyness, awkwardness and have the conversation is boring
You can tell if a woman is interested in you even before you speak to her and it’s in the way she looks at you, when she catches a glimpse of you. Remember the smile, if she doesn’t smile back or gives you a weird smirk, don’t bother. She will be cold and will make any excuse to walk away. Some women may feel that you are stalking them; all this is due to your look and the fact that you might be following her everywhere.
A woman wants to feel safe, secure, comfortable and if you offer her this, she will open up to you. Give her space, don’t push, and let her tell you with her body language if she wants to get to know you better. Remember, a woman does not want to feel like an object and much less looked upon as a one-night stand or a sexual object. She wants you to treat her and respect her like what she is, a person.
So next time you see a woman that you like and want to get to know her, think about your approach. Don’t follow her all over the place, as though you are stalking her. Smile and wait for her to smile back. Be confident, sure of yourself and be ready to have a smart and interesting conversation. These simple tips will help you meet that person and who knows, could be a good and lasting relationship.