We all have our own style and personality. It is what makes us unique. Many of us may share some of the same dislikes, likes, style but there is always something different about it. What may make some of us laugh can make others uncomfortable. That is because we are different and it should be this way.
Imagine if all of us were exactly the same? We all like the same foods, same style, behaved the same, etc. There would be no excitement, why have feelings? Luckily that is not the case. We have our own unique personality and we should keep it this way.
A person’s personality will dictate what will happen in their life. For instance, when we meet someone for the first time, we will decide at that point and time if we like them or not. Their personality will make an impression on us. If we like them we will make it a point of getting closer to them. However, if they rub us the wrong way, we may not be able to pin point what it is that bothers us, but we will keep our distance.
How important is it to be an individual and have a good personality? It’s very important. If it’s good, it will open doors for us. Think about it, when we decide to start dating, one thing that is important to us is their personality. We want them to be funny, smart, intelligent, interesting, etc. We look for someone that is their own person, an individual that is unique and has their own style. At times, even though many won’t admit to this, the personality will win over looks. Why? Eventually looks will fade, no matter how much plastic surgery a person can have but their personality will always be there. We all know this to be true. Think about the many times we have told someone about special people we met in our lives that have left our side. We talk about their personality, sense of humor, style, intelligence, etc. It’s impossible not to say how unique and true the person was and we may miss them. Of course if it’s the opposite, we only say bad things and quickly go onto another subject.
How many times have you met someone that irritates you because they have no personality or individuality? We saw this throughout our childhood in school. It continued into adulthood with our co-workers, friends and even family members. It truly irritates us and we can’t help but comment on it. These people get into groups and behave the same as all the others even though it is not their true personality. We know this and it’s obvious. But these people can’t seem to accept who they are. They begin to dress the same, do the same things and eventually end up with the same attitude. Their attitude most of the time is that of a superior person. However, don’t let that fool you; they are truly insecure and self conscious. They need this group in order to survive. But eventually they will attack each other and little by little the group will disband. Hopefully they will accept who they are and be individuals.
Why take on someone else’s personality, views, attitude or style? No matter how hard they try, it doesn’t become them. Why spend our lives wishing to be someone else and have their life? We may think they have it better than us but they don’t. Everything they achieved by being fake, doing what others want and changing their personality to please others. We don’t need that type of life. We should learn to accept, love and be true to ourselves. By acting as someone else, we lose so much in life and honestly it’s not worth it. We forget who we are and lose our way.
In dressing up, we should also find our own style and avoid copying others. Sure, the stores sell the same thing and we pretty much wear more or less the same clothes but in different ways. We may match them differently, wear different accessories and shoes. Some of us dress up and others are always in casual clothes but this is our own individual style and taste. The worst thing a person can do is begin to dress the same way as those around them because they want to fit in.
First of all, not all of us can wear the same thing. Let’s be honest, when we go out we observe those around us. If the person is heavy, they should not wear tank tops, daisy dukes, bikinis, speedos, etc. It doesn’t look good. Sure they may have a high self esteem and that is great but they look ridiculous. Most of us want to go up to them ask them if we can borrow their mirror. It must be a good one because it makes them believe they look great. Our age is another factor. If we are in our mid 40’s why wear the outfits teens and young adults in their 20’s wear. We must realize this, just as we laugh at others for the way they dress and behave in public, there is someone else doing the same to us.
If we feel we need to improve ourselves, let’s begin with our personality. Let’s be more outgoing, funnier, friendlier and unique. Let’s always be ourselves and just watch as things around us starts to change. We will make more friends, have more opportunities knocking on our doors, probably date more and most important of all, we’ll be happier with ourselves. Now, no matter what you do, there will always be someone out there that doesn’t get along with us but it’s not a big deal. This is natural and happens to all of us.
Think back when we were in high school, the majority of us learned to accept our individuality. We made many friends and one thing they said to each other is they hope we would never change. So, it’s time to think, have we changed? Of course we are not exactly the same anymore, we are older. But are we still funny, friendly, outgoing, kind, a pal, someone to depend on or confide in? Do we still have those same traits? Well, let’s hope that the answer is yes and if it’s a no, then it’s time to bring back the real you. Always be unique, never change our personality to impress or please others. This means we have sold ourselves out for nothing because whatever we get, it will not be worth it and it won’t last. So, let’s always remember those words, never change and always show our true personality, this is who we truly are.