When we get together with our friends we tend to tell each other just about everything. The closer we are with each other, the more we confide in them.
This helps a lot because it gives us a chance to express our feelings and relieve some stress.
At times, we talk about nothing, just idle chit chat that can be fun. But is it a good idea to talk about everything? When does this become a problem? What information should you not share at all with anyone except your partner?
None of us may think for one moment that confiding in our friends will ever cause us any problems or that we may never have any regrets. Yet, there are many that wish they had never mentioned certain aspects of their lives with their friends. It’s okay to talk about work, kids, family and maybe mention some trivial things about our relationships but not all. This is where the problem begins and truly it depends on what type of a friend you may have.
How many times have you heard where someone’s best friend had an affair with their partner or better yet is responsible for breaking up a relationship? We have heard this story too many times and hope it never happens to us. The problem is we share private information. Whether your friend is married or single, what happens in your bedroom should stay there between you and your partner. Many will tell you that having single friends over too many times may cause you problems. The ones that may suffer more from this are women.
See, men tend to keep their bedroom adventures with their partners a secret. It seems that the only time they will share any of their sexual encounters is when it was a one night stand or a simple affair. However, if they are in love with their partner, they will keep a tight lip. They do this because they know that even though this may be their buddy that telling them about their sexual adventures will peak their curiosity. Women on the other hand will confide in their friends about everything. There have been times that they have commented on certain physical attributes they may have and about the wild nights in bed.
Sure some friends will only giggle or laugh. They may even blush but the whole time they are wondering exactly how great your partner is in bed. When they see your partner again, they will talk to them but look at them differently. You have just peaked their curiosity and they may want a little taste of your adventures. So now, if they felt your partner was great, they sound even better now. Should you concern yourself with married or single friends? The answer is both. This whole thing may sound outrageous but it’s not. Sure we see it in the movies and on television shows of how someone brought their friend over and they met their partner. They found each other interesting and next thing you know they are having an affair.
But why go that far, it happens in real life all the time. We see it court programs, newspapers and we hear it from our own friends and family. Many will tell you that it’s great to help a friend out in a time of need but it’s not a good idea to have them stay in your home, especially if they are single. You are better off giving them a few dollars and putting them up in a hotel in order to avoid problems at home. Does this mean you are jealous person and should avoid having friends? No, it means you should be more careful of what you say to your friends.
Just imagine this, here you are telling your friend all about your partner. They are lonely begin to flirt with your partner. First of all, your partner may not tell you this is happening in order to prevent a fight because you may not believe them. Or they may not tell you at all because they find it fun and begin to flirt with them. Next thing you know, an affair begins. It’s a horrible idea but no doubt many have had this problem in the past.
In television you see how they fight with each other, at times it seems even funny because they make it look that way. How many remember watching those interesting fights in shows such as Desperate Housewives, Dynasty, Dallas, Gossip Girl, etc. But when it’s about you, it’s not funny it’s painful. This doesn’t mean that you should break off your friendships and become jealous of everyone around you. It just means be careful, don’t share too much and keeps certain things personal as they should be. What happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom.